I have 2 daughters, each with special issues. I lost a daughter to complications due to her special issue. Then my son, who we thought was only behind in speech. Until last summer. They had done another evaluation of his speech and put things down about him in other areas as well. Just a description. But at the meeting I had questions that I was wondering if he was on the autism spectrum.
So they told me they had some people coming out to observe some other kids in the preschool and so I had him looked at as well.
The 'experts' basically told me they are never on the fence about kids. They either are or aren't. But with my son, they're on the fence. Certain things he does would put him in it, other things he does would kick him out.
And to be honest, I don't know how much of it is learned from my husband (whom I believe is on the spectrum himself) versus what is just him. So I had them wait to come back an re-evaluate in the fall. Figuring he'd be at school more. I made an effort initially to be at church more so he'd be around more kids.
Well they came back out and are still not sure. They wouldn't be completely sure until they tested.
We have to be getting ready to transition him from preschool to kindergarten. I'd like to know yes he is or isn't before then. Because it will make all the difference on how he moves through school.
So last night I tried to bring up the subject. And of course hubby had a complete fit. I didn't even get out talking about testing him to find out for sure. So here comes another battle, where I will on my own, take time off work to get him tested. Because I want to know for sure.
I'm sure I'll be extremely stressed about it. But no matter how stressed hubby makes me on these issues, I will ALWAYS do what's best for my kids.
But I just don't get how he can not want what's best for the kids.. that truly amazes me that he doesn't look at it like that.
